So, the more you forgive, the freer you become. You must be willing to divorce the story you think is your truth. Your pain is valid, but no longer relevant, And as you continue to journey, you will realize much of the pain you remember is only part of the story you created to get other's attention- to help them get free as well. But that is another depth for another time.
I have always respected the game. And in every case, the game will still be played. HOWEVER, you don’t have to play. And you surely can’t play the game expecting anything other than games to be played. If you don’t want steady love and commitment, don’t find or stay in situations where steady love and commitment are the rules of engagement. Although the attachment may be what you desire, you enter a state of principle violation when you willfully neglect to exchange due harvest for the caliber of love you're reaping.